Reblogged with permission from Jem D'jelal, the original author of this content, as a contributor to blogagility.com. Originally published on LinkedIn February 2, 2017.
Jem D’jelal Coaching individuals & teams to find “better” ways of working.
God it’s hard, isn’t it?
Learning about something you’re so passionate about, something which fills your being with such energy & conviction that all you want to do is share it with others.
And because of this love, this attachment, this fire in your stomach…it’s awfully hard to see it another way.
After all, you began this journey because you believed that the world, it needed to change.
People’s voices needed to be heard, happiness shouldn’t be a luxury afforded to the few but an essential for all of the work force.
It’s all good stuff, it all comes from a beautiful place of positivity, doesn’t it?
And so, it is ironic, that we have this gift that we want to offer to others, only that we’re not offering it, are we?
If it was truly a gift, when we offer it to people, we’d be impartial to the outcome.
Are you impartial to the outcome?
I know for a long time, I haven’t been.
“We have to do it this way!”
Otherwise we are not “being” agile.
Take the gift! Take the gift!
Ahh man.
Autonomy, self organisation, empowerment, well collaborated people….being connected to their work wth a deep purpose – why the hell would you not want this gift!
Attachment is a bitch.
Being attached to an idea only results in misery.
You can still be passionate about something, really appreciate what it is, what it does – but to be attached to any framework, principle, practice, that creates a problem.
Recognising you are attached & being aware of your attachment is the start to getting better.
Better at being a coach, better at being a human being.
Coercion, force – these can appear when we’re attached to the outcome of a conversation with the people that we’re trying to help.
“Oh yes, that sounds like a job for LeSS”
“That’s definitely the context for SAFe”
“It’s got Scrum written all over it”
“Of course we MUST bring the agile principles in here”
<Enter your attachment here>
All of the things above, in some shape or form contain great ideas for experiments – awesome empirical wisdom which we’re lucky to have available as change agents.
Just that, the first step to a conversation when trying to help create change should begin with more ear work, then tongue work.
And when you find out what your clients needs are, remember that *not* attempting to “be” agile is also an option.
Sometimes the tools & practices are all what that person wants, and that should be respected.
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